To start any new habit only takes 21 days, that also goes for breaking any bad ones we may have. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! We have to get up and start living again although it is quite typical to feel crushed for a long time after losing someone we care about. So get out of those ugly sweatpants and put away the junk food, it’s time to start some new habits and try something new to heal your broken heart!
The very first thing we have to do is put an end to all the terrible habits we are doing now. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex’s life? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? We want to know if our ex feels the same hurt we do, just as we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. You need to make a huge effort to break these habits so you can heal. So, pinch yourself whenever you feel the need to bring up your ex or go online to check up on them. Not lightly but hard! You have to begin make yourself aware of these bad habits so you can stop them.
With our new self inflected injuries on our arms, we will begin some new habits to divert ourselves from the ones we are trying to stop. We need to begin to feel good about ourselves again so the first habit we should get into is complementing ourselves. I know this will feel weird at first but sit down and write 10 things about yourself that are good. Here are some examples to help get you going:
My 10 best attributes:
- One of my best skills is/are…
- My … really kicks butt!
- I really love my…
- I’m also very…
- My … is/are my best feature.
- I really look good in…
- I’ve very good at…
- I have great…
- I’m really good at…
- I’m very…
Now every morning you are going to get up and look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things and don’t squint your face up as you do it, act like you mean it! You are going to begin to like yourself again the more you say it, because the more you say it the more you will believe it.
Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Joining something will help you get your self confidence back and met new people, and you can learn a new skill along the way. These people are going to get to know you as “single” you, not “couple” you.
As you find yourself involved in more things as single “you” you’ll begin to feel more comfortable with yourself and stop thinking about what your ex is doing. For 21 days try these 2 things and see how much better you begin to feel. Are you thinking about your ex less often? Are you beginning to feel more confident? We are just beginning to retrain how we feel about ourselves and mending our broken heart takes time.
